Youth of India

21^st Century is the century of young generation or I can say, it is the century of the future creators. Future of the India is in the hands of youth. In other word, they are developing the future of the country.  I feel really proud when I am writing on the youth. In India, approximately 5 crores are young people lying between 10 to 25 years. They are creating their future as well as the future of our country. There was a very nice poem written by someone, I would like to dedicate it to our young generation,

कुछ करना है, तो डटकर चल, 
थोड़ा दुनियां से हटकर चल, 
लीक पर तो सभी चल लेते है, 
कभी इतिहास को पलटकर चल, 

बिना काम के मुकाम कैसा ? 
बिना मेहनत के, दाम कैसा ?

जब तक ना हासिल हो मंज़िल, 
तो राह में, राही आराम कैसा ?

अर्जुन सा निशाना रख मन में, 
ना कोई बहाना रख !

लक्ष्य सामने है, 
बस उसी पे अपना ठिकाना रख !!

सोच मत, साकार कर, 
अपने कर्मो से प्यार कर !

मिलेगा तेरी मेहनत का फल, 
किसी और का ना इंतज़ार कर !!

जो चले थे अकेले, 
उनके पीछे आज मेले है ...

जो करते रहे इंतज़ार, 
उनकी जिंदगी में आज भी झमेले है।।

After reading this poem, how do you feel? We are ought to get goose bumps. But reality has always turned out to be different. Each and everyone’s expectation is high. They want immediate reward for their action. Just look at the below picture and what you think, what it is and what would be its cost?

One may be think, it is a stone. And yes, it is looking like a stone but actually it is a rough diamond. After undergoing tremendous changes and challenging adversities, the so called hard stone still has a lot of persistence left with it!!!

It is that persistence and courage that makes it a dazzling, sparkling Diamond from a rough, deformed stone. Because of these course of action, Diamond is surviving years and years and is placed in locker or in necklace, or in crown, earring, or in bracelet and many more. Diamond will always add some charm in one’s personality. From King Ranjeet Singh to Queen Victoria all are dead but Kohinoor diamond is still living. Friends the taste of success is not experienced without tasting the pain. Diamond is always ready for cutting and polishing and because of that Kohinoor is placed in crown and still alive.

We all are very well aware that No gain is without pain but still we are expecting miracle from what we do. I remember one song of Madhuri from movie “Khel”, “Tum mujhko chaand lake do,
Mujhko taare lake do, aur sare lake do. This is what our young generations are expecting. Just remember one thing, how much we flipped ourselves, our selves will shine accordingly.

We people are expecting a lot from others. And if we are deprived of it we are frustrated. We feel like that was the last day of the life and will never receive another opportunity. Remember one thing, in “TODAY”, there is one “O”, means today we have “ONE Opportunity”, whereas in “TOMORROW” there are 3 (Three) “O”, means if you missed an opportunity today then don’t lose hope, you may be receive better opportunity “TOMORROW”.

We all know the valuable contribution given by Mahatama Gandhiji for our freedom. He never received the Nobel peace prize for the same. But after Gandhiji, whoever received the award all of them mentioned Mahatma Gandhiji’s name in their speech. I think Gandhiji received a better award than the Nobel Peace prize.

Let’s see the example of “Leonardo DiCaprio”. After 27 years in Hollywood, six nominations, he received the OSCAR award. After that the headine of the news paper and News Channel was “Finally, OSCAR got the Leonardo DiCaprio”.

In above two examples, we can see the importance of the patience. If you want to achieve something then you have to put yourself under the difficult situation.

GOD CHANGES CATERPILLARS INTO BUTTERFLIES,

SAND INTO PEARLS,

AND COAL INTO DIAMONDS USING TWO THINGS

TIME AND PRESSURE.

These two wonderful instruments of god i.e. time and pressure can really create history. As a black coal is heated in excess pressure to drain out all the impurities of coal and purify it. In the same way stress and pressure in life gives you an opportunity to learn something new and upgrade your old version. No matter how much ever difficult this change may be time is the best healer. You may feel hurt or ached at some point but in the end time heals the scars and wounds.

So tighten your shoelaces and muster courage and strength because you have a diamond hidden in you!!and diamonds are born to shine over their problems not to whine over them.

 

When God Created Mothers

When the Lord was creating mothers, He was into His sixth day of "overtime" and the angel appeared and said. "You're doing a lot of fiddling around on this one." And God said, "Have you read the specs on this order?" She has to be completely washable, but not plastic. Have 180 movable parts...all replaceable. Run on black coffee and leftovers. Have a lap that disappears when she stands up. A kiss that can cure anything, from a broken leg to a disappointed love affair. And six pairs of hands." 

The angel shook her head slowly and said. "Six pairs of hands.... no way."  It's not the hands that are causing me problems," God remarked, "it's the three pairs of eyes that mothers have to have." That's on the standard model?" asked the angel. God nodded. 

One pair that sees through closed doors when she asks, 'What are you kids doing in there?' when she already knows. Another here in the back of her head that sees what she shouldn't but what she has to know, and of course the ones here in front that can look at a child when he goofs up and say, “I understand and I love you” without so much as uttering a word." 

God," said the angel touching his sleeve gently, "Get some rest tomorrow...." 

I can't," said God, "I'm so close to creating something so close to myself. Already I have one who heals herself when she is sick...can feed a family of six on one pound of hamburger...and can get a nine year old to stand under a shower."  The angel circled the model of a mother very slowly. "It's too soft," she sighed.  But tough!" said God excitedly. "You can imagine what this mother can do or endure." 

Can it think?" 

Not only can it think, but it can reason and compromise," said the Creator.  Finally, the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek. 

There's a leak," she pronounced. "I told you that you were trying to put too much into this model."  It's not a leak," said the Lord, "It's a tear." What's it for?"  It's for joy, sadness, disappointment, pain, loneliness, and pride." 

You are a genius, "said the angel.

Source: http://www.themoatblog.com/2012/03/3630/

God's Masterpiece - " Mother"

In my last article, I had started from a short story for parenting. Now, let’s start in a different way. Today I heard exciting news that KBC is once again going to start in 2017. So, let me take an opportunity to ask one question to you. Who is the biggest artist in the world? Sorry but No option for that. What will be your answer? You would say Tom Cruise, Jacky Chain, Amitabh Bachchan or Rajnikant because there is nothing which Rajni can’t do. With due respect of their greatness in acting, achievements and wisdom my answer is different from yours. My answer is “Mother”.

Yes my dear friend, “Mother”. “It’s the only name which has profound meaning in the entire universe. When we are surrounded by adversity or unfortunately face some major accidents and the first word that your lips never fail to speak is “Mother”.

When we are completely lost in our midnight sleep the only person to tuck on a woolen blanket in chilly winter nights is none other than your very own mother! When you have filled your tummy till the rim and deny eating further it is “mother” who pampers you to have two more rotis…..that too either side fully loaded with “ghee”.

Now, let’s come to the answer, why I said “Mother” is the best artist. We will see it from that day when “the woman who gave a birth to her Mother”. As per medical science, the most unbearable pain that anyone can ever experience is during delivering a baby. The next second after the delivery when she happens to see a glimpse of the child, she forgets her every pain and sorrow. Friends this is a true art which is only known to motherhood. It’s an art of giving all that she has to the child. During childhood, when baby is crying a mother never feels shy to make funny faces and tries harder to see her child amused. She will work from fingers to bone and never show a sign of worry or tense on her face. We can’t imagine how much she is doing for us, it is priceless. That is the reason god created mother because he knew that it’s impossible to be present everywhere.

To know the importance of the mother, please have a look on my article, " when god created mother".

http://rahulrevne.blogspot.in/2016/12/when-god-created-mothers.html

Just imagine the importance of the mother from this short but heart melting story. The creator too wasn’t willing to rest while creating this unbeatable masterpiece!!! Indian culture has always joined hands with reverence before women hood and feminism. In our tradition also the goddesses are worshipped more as compared to the gods. But unfortunately this so called 21st century has transformed from “Karagre Vste Lakshmi…” to “Karagre Vaste WhatsAPP”. Instead of Social event, we are using social media because we are very much busy after vitamin M (money).

Actually we people tend to show that we don’t have time for our selves, for our friends and family members. It has been observed that we people are busy on whatsapp in house instead of sparing some quality time with our family members.

This is the situation of our family in 21st century. Mother is giving her 100% for development of her child and after some years, the same child doesn’t have a single minute to spare for his/her mother. There are many families who are financially strong enough but they don’t want to give time to their mothers. When mother suffers from severe illness the child arranges the best medical treatment with full time doctors and nurses. Sometimes at the end no change is observed in mother’s health because mother needs time of family members. More than medicines she requires our time in such situations. She requires her very own children whom she looked up as her only support in old age. Instead of doing charity after mother’s demise or whining for mother, it’s better to give some good memories to your mother.

So finally I would conclude saying that instead of celebrating Mother’s day, give her your best of support, your utmost care and most importantly your valuable time. Let’s not allot only one day for our dear mothers….. Celebrate her goodness every day. Let everyday be mother’s day!! 

Parenting: The way you choose!!!

Hello friends! We humans right from childhood are fond of stories and novels. So, before starting my article I would like to share one story with you which I read recently.

There was a family that had gone to a hotel for dinner. A polite and gentle waiter came to take order. So, he first asked to small child, what will you take, sir? Before that child speaks his father spoke he is suffering from cold. That child keeps silent. So, waiter again asks with politeness, what will you take sir? Now, this time mom took her turn. She said instead of eating he will spread everywhere. That child again keeps silent.  So, waiter again asked with politeness, what will you take sir? Now both mom and dad got frustrated but with distracted voice, child dared to speak, “one chocolate ice cream.” Then waiter went. After that, small kid slowly murmured, “At least he is the one who took me seriously.”

 A short but very touching story. Knowingly or unknowingly this is happening in our family. As a parent, we always want to develop our child with our thoughts, our experience and sometimes unknowingly, we are ruthlessly destroying their wings that are born to fly high. Being a parent, we don’t do it intentionally. We think that the mistakes which we had committed in our childhood must not be repeated by our children. Inadvertently, here we are doing the small mistake. Let’s go in a flashback before 30 years when parents were kids. At that time, may be the situations were different and no one is aware about the future. Now as we are talking about flashback would any child like to be imposed by the thoughts or rules of our parents? Obviously not.  As a parent, we always want to develop our child in the same manner as we have been developed.

In the above example, parents were worrying about his health as he was suffering from cold. And as he was a kid, it may be possible that he doesn’t have any idea regarding what to eat and what to avoid. In such circumstances you can advice give suggestions but not even allowing him to speak once is making your own child your puppet!!

Sometimes, we are expecting a miracle from our child or we are thinking that they are robots and they will follow our each and every command. We never try to see the world from their perspective. My mom always said, when I was kid at that time I used to cry and never mix up with my other cousin. I preferred living alone with my mom and was more of introvert type of person. Now if I imagine that scene, then I am amused. If I was having this type of behavior then I can’t expect something miracle from my child. I am the product of the 20^th century and trying to survive in 21^st century whereas this generation belongs from 21^st century where technology is at peak. Let your children be the gift of your encouragement not the product of your mistake. Encourage them to be what they are born to become not what you want them to become. This is a sign of 21^st century parent!!

Lastly I would like to conclude with one thought, “you can’t expect a miracle from children by insulting and criticizing them. Simply make them feel loved and treat them precious you will definitely find a hidden star in them”. It’s all upon you which way you choose!

“Don’t stop, till you find success”

Yes, yesterday already passed by, but tomorrow is in our hand. What happened today, how it happened? Very boring day. All strategies are wrong, mom and dad scolded , breakup with Girlfriend/Boyfriend, not receiving the contract, having a huge dead stock, not in a good mood, viral fever, exam paper is too tough, our family members or friend circle tease us , accident of our bike, purse lost, receiving a memo at Job.

The list is endless, as life is permanent tragedy! That’s why laughter is so precious, as the proverb goes "Laughter is the best medicine ”. We never know what tragedy will happen with us. But it is fact that that event which is harmful for us, is not with us in past, today is with us but tomorrow will be pass to another. Because all days are not the same, some days bring joy in our life while some days bring sorrow. Another new day, new event, new hope, new courage!

We are discussing on the different national issues, we also want our children to carry forward our virtues and traditions. The art of praying is one of the unique arts which one can learn. The true art of praying is to pray deep from your heart. A prayer that comes right from your heart is so vivid, that even the almighty would wake up from his deep sleeps. But that is also a fact that youth suicide ratio in India is alarmingly high!

All experts and politicians show their concerns for suicide of poor farmers but nobody is thinking for the high ratio of the suicide of teenagers. But government blindly ignores this alarming ratio.

I don’t know why these incidents are so rapid nowadays. Teenage means the age of the adolescence ,energy , will power, freshness ,enthusiasm ,trying new things, thinking about the future ......... in short it’s an age where you are live to each and every moment, but still their hopes dwindle down and they make an attempt for suicide.

Because the youngsters are still adolescent, they are not able to distinguish between right and wrong. Still they are believed to walk on different shades of rainbow. We are already given lots of jeans, cell phone but not given the realistic thought. They know dance very well but they fear to face the society. That’s why they are in dilemma when they are facing some difficulties. So, when exam papers are not going well, the dilemma is not because of exams but because of others........ They worry for others!! I am not up to my family expectations…. Tension … Tension … Tension

Don’t worry Be Happy. As you grow up, you will realize that, peoples never comment. Apart from your near and dear one, if others praise you then don’t be on the seventh cloud…… and if they comment on you then don’t lose hope! Because their comments are their opinion, not the truth. If someone showing his/her regret for the exam paper then don't ask for sympathy, gain empathy. If someone shows off achievements of his children in study, then don’t be ashamed because he is not god that will keep you a “loser” and his/her child “champion”.

Let’s learn some life skills. Failure is an event, not a permanent. You will be able to do an outstanding job, not when you are out of tension but when you know how to tackle that tension. But if you are always crying, then failure will be your permanent stamp. If due to continuous failure, Mr. Amitabh Bachchan would have attempted a suicide, the by now his name would have been inked as a failure. But he struggled, fought back and then, the turning point, after KBC , he again got back his fame.

That’s the point. In a crisis, in cricket, batsmen already aware how to hold their wicket. If you are on the wicket then runs will automatically come your way. Then as you get a chance, make the most out of it. Our life is also like a cricket, in a difficult situation we are crying, confusing in a difficult situation, everywhere it is darkness, we are getting tired that is a natural things. Without diving in river, it’s impossible to cross it. Someone is showing or hiding, but that is the fact that everyone is facing the difficulties.

But who can complete that phase and prepared for the war, that one will kill the Ravan. Like failure we cannot grab success and keep it tightly held in our fist! Suddenly comes in our lap, sometimes will flow rivers of sweat, but we fail to achieve it! But the thing which is permanent is “Preparedness”. You are always ready because opportunity will come from anywhere, so the result of the exam will never keep a longer impact on you.

Dearest Student, buddies just think, your goal is mark sheet or a career? Because nobody knows the marks of successful persons then how it is possible for failed person? Remember, career is not directly related to education degree but it is related with a man. There are so many students who cleared MA with political science, but out of that each one will not become the Chief Minister. After some time, contact points of our parents also are also not useful, otherwise Abhishek Bachchan would have been the biggest super star of the India and Rohan Gavaskar , the best batsman of the Indian Cricket team.

At the end, we are killing our self. Suicide is not the permanent solution for failure in exam or not getting god job due to recession. If we are thinking for suicide due to bad circumstances then after death it will be much better situation, then that is wrong because nobody will prove that. God knows situation will be more complicated. There is a risk, fear and require more hard work to put a step in an unknown situation but it is better to fight in a knowing situation. It may be reverse that after suicide, life of our near and dear One’s would be worst and the stamp of the failure will be permanent!

Buck up, If you fall down then remove your dust, Come on, fight out! Remember, the final score of the innings will be deciding on the last ball not on the first ball. People salute who stands bravely in the worst situation. Don’t waste your time! Invest your time! What happen if due to some less marks, you are not eligible to go in your lovable field. More than 90% celebrities got success apart from their professional degree. It might be possible that other person will also salute to your Preparedness, though you don’t have the degree. The real joy of the life is in the suspense, what will be happen next. Friend’s history teaches a mystery of life. If everything happens according to our will then, there is no mystery and where there is no mystery, how are we going to create a great history. And if everything goes as we want then there will be a day, when we have lost the true taste of life.

So, cheer up, improve yourself and don’t escape!