Self Management

In today’s technological world, the most challenging task for any human is to constantly achieve “SUCCESS” year after year. We can see in our surrounding area. We have a mind set to blame others or our luck or God for not getting success. We never think why some people get success and we are not even getting a glimpse of it. There is a beautiful thought by our “missile man” late Mr. A.P.J Abdul kalam,

“You cannot change your future but

You can change your habits and

Your habits can definitely change your future.”

Successful people don’t change their future or destiny because it is not in our their hand but instead they prefer to change their habits which are under their control. Right now you might be reading this article with a big question mark in your head as to which habit I am talking to develop in this article. To give you an insight about what are you going to learn from this article is that you will be on your way to success when you run your day by the clock and life with a vision. Yes my dear friends I am talking about making friends with “time” and of course “life”! Let us move ahead with an example of world’s biggest business tycoon Mr. Mukesh Ambani.

Just think, Mr. Mukesh Ambani has only 24 hours in his watch and we also have the same, but he has attained the highest height of success and strives harder to go beyond it. He is not only successful in business world but manages to spend a good time with family. He has the ability to draw a line between his personal and professional life. In fact he has everything what money can buy and all that money can’t buy! That’s true success isn’t it? 

You might say that he must be a good friend of time or he might have the skill of managing the time well. Dear readers let me remind you that, “time and tide wait for no man”. It’s not only about managing the time well; it’s about managing your SELF well with time!

It has been said that, 

“There are two big thieves in the world, i.e., 1) Our Past and 2) Our Future. And they are stealing our Present”.

Dreaming about future or regretting the past, presently we are killing our precious present and at the last stage of life we die with regrets in our mind and dissatisfaction in our hearts. Just asking you one question, why we feel regretful for our past? Why we are not managing our “self” efficiently with “time”, so at the end of the life we don’t feel the regret? Why a businessman being a father forgets to give time to his daughter who will be going to a home after her marriage? One example I like to share with you, one businessman shared that his maternal aunt played a crucial role in his life, but when he turn as a businessman at that time he was busy in his personal life and did not give a proper time to her. One day she passed away and now he feels the regret. Just I like to ask one question that why we are not giving proper time to those people who had played or are playing a crucial role in our lives? Are we only made to shed tears on the funeral of those people? 

One fine day you will be judged not by the quantity of life but by the quality of life you have lived. That day is not too far when you will not be judged by how many breaths you take but how many moments took your breath away. We don’t have our past and we cannot guarantee our future but we can live and make the best from our present. You find life in every present moment when you believe in this.

“Char din ki he zindagi , ji lo apni marji se,

Mat pachtao  baad me, ye reh gya meri galti se”.

This is so very true about life. It is today that we have in our hands and it’s our responsibility to make this today a memorable one. It is in our hands to manage our self well with time and give your best shot to every situation. And friends I am here to give you a head start on managing yourself well with time. Yes, after reading this article you will definitely be more active, responsible and of course successful! Conditions applied, if you sincerely implement it in your life.

    HAVE A VISION.

It is rightly said that when you know the answer to the question “why”; you automatically know the answer to question “how”. Things will get simpler for you when you really know what desperately you want from life and why you want it. Take a paper and write your vision for life on it. When you know where to go only then will you be able to manage time as well as self. This will work like an engine of the train for you. Without engine your train has no destination!

    MAINTAIN A DIARY.

Remember our old good school days. When you have to go for a picnic tomorrow how you plan things, write your requirements on paper, plan out your events with friends etc. this is called a preplanned and well organized person. Buy a brand new diary and write your plans for tomorrow in it. You can also include some thoughts in it before starting. While you plan out your tomorrows plans today you actually you are giving 10% to life today and you will be getting 90% from life tomorrow. That sounds a good investment, isn’t it?

    Use technology: 

As a human, we know everything, but as far as implementation is concerned, we are not doing the same. As informed earlier, it’s better to use diary, but if you feel that, it’s not possible for you to maintain it then, use technology. There are many apps, which help us as a reminder or we can use Google Reminder. Google Reminder keeps us updated regularly. Suppose we have a meeting after 3 days, then we can set a command to notify before 1 day, 1 hour, 15 min. Google reminder not only helps to be punctual but also gives a proper input to our mind. We keep our minds focused on the meeting that you are about to attend.  So, it will help to reach on time and we can get the proper time to prepare also.

    Kill notifications.  

We all know addiction is not good. As the world is changing so fast, we all are also adapting to new things. As our cell phones are converted to smart phone, we had also Modern technology has evolved to exploit our urgency addiction: E-Mail, Facebook, Twitter, Quora and more will fight to distract you constantly. Fortunately, this is easily fixed: turn off all your notifications. I don’t mind these notifications all that matters is your time to see these notifications. If you are viewing these notifications during your office hours or work or before any important event you will definitely feel distracted and would probably find it difficult to get focused on the same. The best time to view notifications is when you are ideal, during lunch break, during travelling hours or during anytime when you are idle.

    Start your work early

If you ask any successful person what is their key secret of success, they will probably tell you one same thing – they start their day early. This means they are early birds! When you get up early, you are calm and clear headed. The silence of the dawn enables you to be focused towards your day to day activities and as you start your day early you complete your tasks before time. This increases your productivity and ultimately gives you an edge over others. So “start early” mantra will definitely help your “self” to be in sync with “time”.

    Be Realistic

When you’ve created a plan and a schedule, it’s important to be realistic about what you can actually accomplish in a workday and prioritize accordingly. The first and the foremost rule of goal setting is to be “realistic”. You need to set your goals last night that are quiet realistic and achievable. When you do so, you automatically become a self motivator to motivate yourself to accomplish your desired goals. When you set realistic goals and when you attain the same you increase your confidence as well as your enthusiasm to be better for the next day! 

The above given points will definitely prove to be life changing ones if you truly believe and follow the same. Managing yourself effectively with time is the first step to succeed. Points given above will help you in initial phase of self management and gradually take you from the roads of personal satisfaction which ultimately lead to a successful end. Friends, remember life offers you a second chance every day, time knocks your door with new opportunity every second, but it’s you who has to have that vision and ability to recognize your hidden self and strive harder to be your best version in any situation of life.

So respect yourself before respecting time because when you respect yourself

you will definitely take a proper step for your success at proper time.