Nepotism & Groupism (Truth and Solutions)

लहरों से डर कर नौका पार नहीं होती

कोशिश करने वालों की हार नहीं होती

नन्हीं चींटी जब दाना लेकर चलती है

चढ़ती दीवारों पर, सौ बार फिसलती है

मन का विश्वास रगों में साहस भरता है

चढ़कर गिरना, गिरकर चढ़ना न अखरता है

आख़िर उसकी मेहनत बेकार नहीं होती

कोशिश करने वालों की हार नहीं होती

These are some lines of the poem written by Mr. Sohamlal Drivedi. Whenever I read or hear, it gives me Goosebumps.  This always enlightens to introspect me, How far can I go? And I am always working on the same. 

Nowadays, what I am witnessing that in this 4G world, everyone is expecting their lives to be as easy and magical as smartphones, one click and you got it! Because of these high expectations, they are taking some inevitable steps like Suicide. I had read somewhere that "suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems". Before 1 month, one of the talented actors did the same. I am not in the discussion that whether it was murdered or suicide or someone forces him to do the same.  I don't know what it was. But I know there are many people who are doing the same. Reasons may be different like, some boy/girl rejected the proposal, unsatisfactory promotions, trivial issues between husband and wife, public pressure or family pressure, etc. In today's newspaper, I had just read that brother denying a TV remote, and his sister attempt suicide. I don't know what the cost of our life is. Is it a failure? 

Failure is a part of our life. That we have to accept it. Passion and Patience both are required. We have to deal with it. Let's see some examples. If I ask who is the star of the millennium? The answer is the one and only Mr. Abhishek Bachchan. Unfortunately, he didn't get success like his father, mother, and wife. But still, he is giving his best. unfortunately, he is the talk of the town on social media for his failures or low box office collections. Despite this he manages to have a calm composed mind to give them a befitting reply. Recently, his appearance in one web series "Breathe", has received immense applause and promising success. This year his other movie is also coming. He never loses his confidence.  There are many instances like this where parents are victorious and their children are not. 

As I mentioned earlier that everyone has to face a struggle. We have to maintain our patience also. When Yash Johar came into the film industry he struggled a lot. And because of that Karan Johar is ruling the industry. On the contrary, Yash Chopra was successful, Uday Chopra is not, in the same way, Fardeen khan, Tushar Kapoor, and Randhir Kapoor, and many more are there where their father tastes the victory and their children are still waiting.  

We have to take immediate control of our mental, emotional, physical destiny. Let's see some steps:

Motivate yourself 

1.      Tape a 3 X 5 card with I AM NUMBER ONE printed on it to your bathroom mirror, where you can see it first thing every morning. Read it and smile.

2.      Keep a similar card in your office or desk or soft copy on your mobile and PC’s desktop.

3.      Repeat this statement 10 times every night before going to bed. I AM THE NUMBER ONE PERSON IN MY LIFE.

4.      Put negative thoughts – envy, jealousy, greed, hate – out of your life.

5.      Give yourself a pat on the back at least once every day.

6.      In your friend circle, you need to keep one Jambvan. Jambvan is one of the characters present in Ramayan who inspired Shree Hanuman to fly.  And the rest is history. In the same way, we also require one Jambvan in our life who will light the fire of faith in ourselves when it gets dimmed. The bottom of the line is to have faith in yourself, and believe that you are the greatest and you are the champion. This practice will give you a self-kick and live life to complete our dream.

I want to ask you one question, who is the hero? A person whose statue we can see in our city. We are very well aware that generally, birds are using those statues. Or a hero means a person whose photos are printed in newspapers and magazines. We are also aware that the next day that newspaper we found at Shop for packing material. Who is the hero?It has been said that after our death god will ask, what did you do in your entire life? Did you enjoy your life? Or you just came as you were!  You can’t say like, yes I enjoyed it because I did one murder, 1 robbery, but on 2nd attempt, I didn’t get success and so I am here. The reason being the next question goes this way, ”did anybody experience happiness because of you?”  

Our last performance is important instead of past performance. Forget about what you did. Remember only one thing what you are doing and what you will do. People who always remember his past will ultimately walk in the footsteps of Rajesh Khanna and one who is focused on his last performance eventually becomes the hero forever-Mr. Amitabh Bachchan. If you were lucky enough to spend your teenage in the late ’80s and 90’s you will be aware of how the grand arrival of Big B tossed the stardom and fame of the first-ever superstar Rajesh Khanna. Even today whether it be miss universe or very own son of big B, Amitabh Bachchan still has an upper hand over films, acting, and many more.  

Just remember one thing:

A psychological Adult is a Choice Maker

A psychological Child is a Consequence Receiver

A Choice Maker is like a TIGER in the Jungle

A Consequence Receiver is like a TIGER in the Zoo

Now it's your choice what you want to become Tiger in the Jungle or Tiger in the Zoo?